Not everyone is great at giving compliments. It is not that they are not impressed by the actions, ideas, or leadership of others, it is that some people are not wired in a way that giving compliments is easy. This can be especially true of those in the builder generation because of their upbringing. Parents in their day did not see it necessary to build their children’s self-esteem through direct compliments as something as simple as a glance would suffice. Their compliments were either indirect or subtle.
This complimentary style carried over into the baby boomer generation, as was evidenced by one of my favorite supervisors. He never gave me a direct compliment but he always let me know he appreciated my efforts. Here is how he did it:
This is an excerpt from the book “Life’s Leadership Lessons” a collection of 53 anecdotal leadership lessons, each with an anecdote and the application of the topic in your everyday life. It is designed for use in weekly staff meetings or for personal development.